The really exciting PhD project that no one cares about

I recently got back from a trip to my husband’s parents’ house. The trip went a little something like this…

We arrive at their house on a Friday evening. Of course, my husband takes a half-day off from work on Friday so we can see his parents. Totally understandable. Let’s remember again that I’m a graduate student so my schedule is similar to a house cat – I get up when I please, pee when I please, and do work when I please – so leaving early on a Friday was no problem for me. We get to their house and his mother has dinner ready for us. Usually it’s something that consists mainly of carbs topped with cheese. Great comfort food and great fat-on-my-thighs food. We precede that entire night talking about about how my husband’s job is, how my father-in-law’s job is, how my mother-in-law’s job is, how the dog’s day was, how our drive down was, etc. I usually sit and nod, smile, partake in conversation, go to bed after we are full and happy, and sit in my bed and ask myself the question: does anyone really give a shit about my research?

Now, I must clarify because if my family ever reads this blog, there are two people that really care about my research and that’s my Mom and my husband. If I fell dead tomorrow, they would probably be able to finish my research project for me – that’s how much they have asked me about it and so to them, I say “Thank you!”. Now let’s continue…

If you are a graduate student like myself or you work in some type of science industry where no one ever asks you what you do more than once because they don’t think they’ll understand it…science, ugh, it’s just so confusing….you might experience some of the following like I do:

1. This is the number of shits people give about your research: 0. Although….this is the number of shits people care about you getting your PhD: 1000000. Funny how they are one in the same.

2. You most always sit at a dinner party and say nothing about your work – mainly because no one asks.

3. You tell someone you spent 18 hours at the lab doing an experiment and they respond with, “Wow, that’s a long time. ((Silence))”. You could be programming rats to walk down runways in Paris Hilton’s newest fashion line and they would never know.

4. If people do ask you about your research, you experience them staring a hole through your head and then changing the subject really fast.

5. If someone does ask you about your research more than once, they ask you the same question each time, “What is it you research again?”  and then respond with “Cool.” like it’s the least interesting thing on the planet.

6. You most often than not get the question, “So when are you going to graduate?” and you hate that question more than anything in the world. Especially from your mother-in-law who doesn’t even ask what you research and only wants to know when you are going to get a real job and start having babies. (I promise I have no remorse)

So if you are a graduate student or science professional and feel the same lack of interest or care from your peers, feel free to share your story in the comments below…and keep your head up, your research is important even if people don’t ask about it. #PhDProbs

Sincerely,

Feeling under-appreciated

Learning to turn your brain off

If you’re anything like me, you are always thinking. Whether it’s about the organization of the apartment, when to make time for all the Fall weather activities, whether or not to workout, whether I should take a shower before I go to bed or in the morning, which TV show I’m going to watch next, what the plans are for tailgating this weekend, am I saying the right thing to the person I’m having a conversation with, when am I going to make time to study, etc. Most of the thoughts that are constantly lingering in my mind are things that I’m dreading to do. Even when I’m watching TV I find myself thinking about something on my “To Do” list. My brain is almost always in the ON position. So the question is…can you turn your brain off?

After 27 years of being on this earth, it wasn’t until the other day when I realized that I needed to figure out a way to shut my mind off to the thoughts that you dread or the negative thoughts. The best example I can give you of your brain always being ON about something is when you are trying to decided whether or not to workout. It’s in the back of your mind ALL day. “Am I going to workout? I could do it tomorrow? If I do, when do I want to do it? Maybe I can just skip?” And then, even when you decide to go and do it, you head to the gym, hop on a treadmill, and now you are asking yourself how long you really want to workout for. “Maybe just 20 minutes instead of 30.” Ya feel me? So again, is there a way that we can just turn off those thoughts?

I personally think there is a way. You just have to think of something else. Something positive. Something that makes you smile. And then the nagging question of whether to workout or not disappears. Have you ever gone through a busy day and you find that it’s 5:00 and you have eaten nothing all day but yet you didn’t think once about wanting to eat during the day because your mind was so busy doing something else? It’s the same concept. Dive your mind into something positive. Distract yourself from the worry, stress, and nagging questions that cloud your mind by focusing on the things that make you happy and that you love.

I spent the entire week doing this. Anytime I felt like I had lingering questions about things I didn’t want to do or I didn’t want to think about, I dove my mind into something positive. For example, I told myself that I was going to workout every day this past week right after work. Instead of dreading it all day and then debating about when exactly I was going to go, I focused on positive things all day that made me smile and when I got home, I went straight to my room and put my running clothes on, and the entire time, I made sure I didn’t think about the whole concept of running at all. I thought about other things that made me smile. The beautiful Fall weather, the fun weekend I had with friends, the new TV show I was excited to watch, etc. And not once this entire week was there dreading anything. I took life a lot lighter. I found joy in the little things. I smiled just because. And because this, my entire week changed. My mood changed. It was a good week! I’m no doctor, but I’m daring all of you to try it and see what happens.

xo

Smile.

 

 

 

The Vacation Conundrum

Sorry to all my readers I left in the dark for the past month. I have been traveling and vacationing much more than a graduate student probably should. Since my last post, I have visited my maid of honor in Texas, visited Colorado with my Mom and sister, and spent 8 days in California with my in-laws. Now that I’m back home and have a chance to reflect on the last several weeks, I have realized that I don’t really feel all that relaxed after a month’s worth of vacations. Am I the only one out there that doesn’t feel “renewed and reenergized” after vacationing?

For starters, I am a graduate student and with being a graduate student, there’s always the impending doom of the “thesis or dissertation”. Unlike most jobs, there’s one goal over the course of 4-5 years and that’s to complete your thesis/dissertation. For every week you push it back, it feels like that’s an extra week you’ll still be in graduate school. Now, don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t have been able to travel as much as I have the last month if I wasn’t in graduate school. I happen to have an advisor who only wants to meet every other week so it makes it pretty easy to bring work with me and skip out for a week at a time. But still, there’s always the thought of my dissertation on my mind which makes it hard to really relax while sitting on the beach in California.

Second, if someone were to do a study on people that are able to continue their healthy eating habits during vacation, I’m almost certain the percentage of people that would be able to do that would be less than 10%. How am I supposed to pass up a margarita served along side the best seafood nachos in town? I live in the Midwest, the closest thing I’m getting to seafood nachos when I come home is going to Red Lobster and Taco Bell on the same day. So how am I supposed to convince myself to say no?

Third and in addition to the eating habits, I am almost certain the percentage of people that are able to continue their workout routine while on vacation has got to be less than 10% as well. What am I supposed to do for a workout in Texas with no treadmills and a heat index of 105 degrees? Not workout was my answer.

So as I get back from vacation and finally have a second to soak in the last several weeks, I feel disappointed and not at all relaxed and reenergized. Don’t get me wrong, I put a lot of great memories in the memory bank this past month, but that feeling of stress is just lingering. Is it just me or is this secretly happening to everyone that posts Facebook pictures from their beach vacation like nothing else is on their mind but be beachy cocktails and sand? And if they are like me after all, what can we do to change that feeling?

I think more than anything, it’s all about planning ahead and mental preparation. I didn’t take the time at all to figure out how I was going to continue my workout routine in Texas, let alone Colorado or California. Could I have looked into calling up a gym and asking if I could pay a small fee to use their gym for 3 days? Uh…yup. And now that I think about it, I probably would have felt a whole lot better if I did. All I really needed was a good 30 minute run in the morning to stick to my routine. It would have been way easier to do than my mind was letting me think. The fact that I didn’t try to make things easier for myself and plan ahead just made things more stressful.

Mental preparation would have been the key to me not stressing about work and eating healthy. If I had taken the time to give myself a mental game plan when it came to saying no to excessive eating of damn good seafood, I probably would have felt a whole lot better post-vacation. It is vacation so you should allow yourself a certain extent of splurging, but at the same time, that mental preparation and game plan allows you not to take it too far. Mentally prepare a limit for yourself and stick to it. If you don’t, the limitless seafood nachos will result in a few extra lbs that you really could have done without. Just like crack – you just gotta prepare yourself to say NO.

And as far as work, it’s a combination of mental and physical preparation. With all my down time in California, I could have done a better job planning out when I should take a few hours to work. Not only that, but I could have planned in some extra time before I left as well to do some work. But again, without the mental and physical preps, no work was to be done.

So in an effort to help out any readers going on vacation that often feel the same type of post-vacation stress as I do, here are a few tips: (And readers, feel free to post additional tips in the comment section!)

1. Write down a workout plan that fits with your vacation schedule and stick to it! I know this seems cheesy, but the best way to make sure something happens it to write it into your schedule with a specific date and time.

2. Come to terms with the fact that you are going to be in contact with several different options for delectable meals and mentally prepare to limit yourself. For example, pick the mouth-watering cheeseburger but mentally prepare yourself to know that if you are going to splurge on the main item that you are going to pick a salad as your side – every time.

3. Start thinking a month ahead of time about how you are going to get work done that you are going to miss while on vacation. This will allow time for you to get more done ahead of time or set yourself up so that you can take work with you and make a plan of when to do it.

4. Most importantly – leave nothing to question. This was my number 1 mistake. I didn’t exactly know how I was going to continue my workout routine, fit work into my schedule, or how I was going to manage to stick to a healthier eating routine but still be able to sample some new foods on the road. I left all of it to question, so of course, I didn’t workout, work on research, or say no to that extra side of fries. Key in on the things that usually stress you out post-vacation and find a solution for them ahead of time.

I guarantee that if I realized these tips ahead of time, I wouldn’t be a week behind on my work, 6 lbs. heavier, and feeling stressed. All and all, the personal price of memories and a great vacation are up to you. Another invaluable realization not to be regretted. We live and we learn!

Are you being yourself or are you just trying to be a good girlfriend?

I started this blog anonymously because there are stories and realizations that come about in my everyday life that involve my friends and family. I didn’t want them to feel exposed, but I wanted to be able to talk about my encounters and situations because I know that my readers would be able to relate to them. Stories and happenings in everyday life that have more meaning but we’ve never actually gaged what the meaning is. It allows my readers (you guys! :)) to relate, give feedback, talk about similar experiences, or offer a different meaning. So with that said, today’s post is about a recent story in my life and the oh so important and obvious realization that came after…

As an engineering graduate student, my lab mates are my coworkers. It’s not exactly like a regular job, any graduate student would tell you that, but we still spend a lot of time with each other just like any other job. I have become good friends with one of the girls in my lab and we have got to know each other over the past four years. She is the sweetest, kindest, and nicest person you could ever meet. She started dating this guy almost 3 years ago and they have had issues since the start of their relationship. I have been an outlet for her over the past several years when she’s needed to talk about stuff or just vent and so I have a pretty good idea of the things about her boyfriend that drive her crazy. We have discussed thousands of solutions to help make her relationship better and we were discussing the one thousandth and one solution yesterday when I realized what the solution to every single one of her problems was – she needed to be herself.

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So often we just want to be so sweet, kind, and not upset someone else that we forget about what we really want. My lab mate is the perfect example of someone that is too busy thinking about what the other person wants that she loses site of what she wants and who she is. This is usually the source of problems in everyone’s very first relationship, if not the ones that follow. I know it was the problem in my first relationship. We start a relationship being someone else only to realize that 2 years down the road we are unhappy. We’ve spent two years going to movies like the Chronicles of Riddick and countless hours watching our boyfriends play World of Warcraft without really telling them we don’t enjoy it. We just wanted to make them happy. That’s what THEY wanted. But what about us? Why in those relationships do we spend so much time making sure we are doing the things that make them happy and forget about ourselves? I realize with love clouding our judgments it’s sometimes hard to see what’s actually going on, but there are times we forget about ourselves, and not intentionally, we are just clouded by that love. I ended up talking to my lab mate about this and she saw for the very first time in 3 years that she lost sight of who she was and what she really wants. In case you are reading this wondering if you are in a similar situation, I’ve put together a few questions to ask yourself. Are you being yourself or are you just trying to be a good girlfriend?

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1. What was the one thing you were passionate about before you met your boyfriend? Is it still a part of your life or has it been taken over by your boyfriends biggest passion? As a hypothetical example, Betty loved cooking and keeping up with softball before she met Fred. Now that she’s dating Fred, it seems like all her passions are just his passions. She no longer keeps up with softball or pursues cooking classes. She now “seems” very interested in the score of every hockey game, her twitter feed has turned into a replica of his interests, and she never talks about any of her old interests as much as she talks about his. It’s okay to find interest in your boyfriend’s interests, but are you totally losing sight of yourself so you can relate to your boyfriend?

2. Are your answers to your boyfriend’s questions almost always “I don’t care.” but secretly you really do care?  “Would you care if we left your birthday celebration early because I’m tired?” “Sure, I don’t care. If that’s what you want.”

3. How often does your boyfriend volunteer time to take part in your interests? Has he suggested you guys do something that he knows is a specific interest of yours?

4. Did you start doing stuff at the beginning of your relationship that you no longer want to do? Did you start washing his dirty pots that he left in the sink for weeks at a time because it was a nice thing to do and now you don’t want to keep doing that for him? Did you say you’d go watch all these sporting games with him in the beginning because that’s what made him happy but now you have no desire to go watch them all the time? That’s because that’s not who you are.

5. Who are you? What are your interests? Does your relationship include them? I’m not talking about your boyfriend’s interests, I’m talking about yours – Christmas decorating, wine parties, going to the pumpkin patch, walking to the farmer’s market, baking together, going for a Sunday morning coffee, seeing small theater films, or cheering for your alma mater – whatever interests you. Are they still in your life?

It’s hard to realize that you have lost sight of who you are but it’s those questions above that will help you realize if you have or maybe if one of your friends has lost sight of herself and you can see it happening from the outside. It’s really easy to be the sweetest, kindest, and nicest person in the world, but it’s going to be really hard to form any type of relationship if that’s all you focus on being. Sometimes you have to say no and most of the time you aren’t going to like everything that your significant other likes and that’s OK. It’s about compromising and being yourself. Don’t just focus on being a good girlfriend, be yourself. Be who you are. Don’t waste your time being what someone else wants you to be or three years might go by and you are wondering why you aren’t happy with your relationship. As my sister says, “Do you.”

 

xo

me, myself, and I

 

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How to find the guy from your fairy tale

Ever since girls are little, they are constantly exposed to a world in movies and TV shows where everything is perfect. Princesses and princes, fairy tales and bedtime stories with “happily ever afters” that we reenacted with our Barbies as kids. I know this has been discussed before in movies like He’s Just Not That Into You and Love Actually, but have we actually figured out the difference between Cinderella and real life? Why can’t we have Cinderella’s love life? Or, can we? We are all still out there reading books like Twilight and subconsciously searching for our Edward Cullen or watching movies like The Notebook and wondering why our guy can’t just pick us up and twirl us around in the pouring rain while kissing us passionately. But why do people say it isn’t possible or that it’s not real life? We don’t want to just settle for a certain love life because we are told it can’t be prefect like the movies, but at the same time, don’t we deserve some kind of happily ever after? Do we have to draw a line between real life and our fairytale?

To be honest with you, I think it’s totally possible to have our happily ever afters. Am I saying that it is possible to have a prince come to your house, have you try on a shoe, and you both live happily ever after? Not exactly. But can you have a prince charming? Yes. One that sends you flowers, leaves you sweet notes, sweeps you off your feet, and carries you to bed at night? Absolutely – and I know you can because that’s exactly what I have. I know you are thinking, “Yea, right, okay.” But I’m serious. My husband is very much like the prince from a fairytale or Ryan Gosling from The Notebook. Did I find him just like that? Absolutely not. So how did it end up this way then? It’s actually very easy, I used three simple rules for my relationship and ended up finding, dating, and marrying the man from my fairytale.

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The 3 rules to find the guy from your fairytale:

1. Understand that communication is the key to every successful relationship. It’s the GOLDEN key. It’s the key of all keys.

2. After you’ve realized #1, understand that no one can read your mind, not even your boyfriend or husband. This is so important. This is the very difference between prince charming in Cinderella and the prince charming from real life. All the princes in fairy tales just happen to know exactly what the girl wants, like they can read her mind. The princes in real life cannot, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t prince charming.

3. After you’ve realized #1 and #2, understand that there are certain things you can expect from your loved one and there are certain things that you can’t expect.

 

Applying the rules

Seems simple, right? That’s because it is. In case you are still an un-believer, let’s test out those steps on a typical situation in which we just aren’t understanding why our boyfriend isn’t like prince charming:

The “Why is my boyfriend not doing sweet things for me?” situation (This includes sweet notes, flowers, surprise date nights, etc.)

Well, let’s look at #1 of our rules – have you communicated to your boyfriend that you are the “flowers, cards, and candy” type girl? Have you told him that you would love to randomly receive flowers from him every once in awhile? Have you told him that one of the things that brightens your day more than anything is a love note from him? And when I say communication, I mean have you sat down and really told him how much doing these things means to you? If not, then how is he supposed to know? Which brings us to rules #2 and #3  – he can’t read your mind (rule #2!) and if he can’t read your mind and you’ve never told him these things before, then don’t expect (rule #3!) to get flowers, cards, and candy on the regular. I know you are thinking doing this stuff seems like common sense and you feel like you shouldn’t have to tell him this stuff at the beginning, but it just doesn’t work that way.

The same rules apply to other situations as well…

Why is my boyfriend not helping with the household chores? Communicate expectations.

Why is my boyfriend not hanging out with me and my friends more? Communicate expectations. He won’t know how important this is to you if you don’t tell him.

Why did my boyfriend not take me out to dinner on my birthday? This may seem like a no-brainer to some people, but you still have to communicate. You’ll never know if the guy is prince charming if you don’t communicate to him what prince charming is like to you.

 

Is what you want feasible? 

Now, I know there are some of you ladies reading this that are thinking, “Well, I have told him I want flowers, cards, and candy; and I’m still not getting them from him?” Or, “I’m not allowed to expect things of my boyfriend/husband? What is the world coming to?!” So let’s clear up those questions…are you asking for flowers, cards, and candy every week or just occasionally? Because every week isn’t really feasible. Just like asking for a $10,000 engagement ring and knowing your boyfriend only has $7,000 to spend and can’t manage financing options – you know better than to go bankrupt. Don’t be selfish. Okay, so Cinderella got a huge castle when she got married but let’s be honest, is that really feasible for your situation? On the other hand, prince charming showed Cinderella how much he loved her and this is totally feasible and what you are ultimately looking for.

 

The Ultimate Question – is this really my prince charming or is he still out there?

What do you do if you tell your main squeeze that you’d love to get flowers, cards, or candy just occasionally and it’s been 3 months and you’ve got nothing? What do you do if you’ve told your boyfriend to help pick up things around your mutual apartment and he hasn’t made any effort? Don’t be afraid to tell him again. This isn’t a “Apply rule #1 and then if he doesn’t do it after you’ve told him once, break up with him” situation. It’s a “Make sure that you have done your absolute best in communicating to him the things that make you happy and are important to you and evaluate his actions thereafter” situation. You CAN expect things of your significant other IF you have done your very best to communicate to them what you’d like to expect, and if you haven’t, then you shouldn’t really expect them.

So what do you do if you’ve done your very best to communicate these things to him over the last 8 months and nothing has happened? Reevaluate your relationship.  Are the things you are asking from your boyfriend and not getting causing you unhappiness? You deserve to be happy – everyone does. Your prince charming is out there and I know that sounds cliché , but it’s not about finding the guy that does all the things you want him to do right off the bat (that’s the prince charming from the fairy tales), it’s about finding the guy that wants to find a way to do the things that are important to you because he loves you that much and wants to grow with you in a relationship. That’s the prince charming that’s out there for you and isn’t only found in fairy tales. Don’t be afraid to keep searching so you can find your happily ever after. Every girl deserves a prince charming.

 

xo

Real life princess

 

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Making your late 20’s the best 20’s

I have seen so many blog posts and Buzzfeed links going around about life in your late 20’s. About how we all want to go out and party but yet sometimes we are just too tired and want to stay home, about how we have 4 beers and feel hungover the next morning, about how sometimes it just takes too long to get ready and do anything, or about how we are “too old” for that stuff anymore. Well, there’s a common theme in all the posts about your late 20’s and it’s being lazy. Are we going to be able to party everyday like we did when we were in college? Absolutely not. Are we going to be able to not doing anything the day after a rager because we have no responsibilities? Absolutely not. But what we are forgetting is that going out isn’t about how much you drink or whether you’ll be hungover, it’s about making memories. We remember college as the best time of our lives because it was full of so many awesome memories. Yes, those memories may have involved drinking until we were sick, but not all of them included that. The one thing that was included in every single one of the memories that were made in college is friends. We made so many memories in college because of friends – drunk or not drunk. Whether it was finishing the keg on a Sunday morning or sitting on the porch during a summer day just talking about our lives – it was all because of friends.

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Now the reason that’s all important for you to understand is because I’m sitting at my apartment on a Friday evening just like the rest of the late 20 somethings across the US wondering what I should do tonight. I don’t want to do keg stands tonight, I don’t want to drink half a case of Bud Light tonight, and I don’t want to feel supper shitty tomorrow morning. Now usually when I think of all those things, I opt for just staying in for the night. The thing is, you aren’t required to do all of that just to hang out with your friends. Life is too short to sit on the couch and use the fact that you can’t drink like you did in college as an excuse not to do anything. We will all be making far less memories in our late 20’s if we continue to have the mentality that we just can’t party like we did in our early 20’s. So with that said, I’m putting up my computer, applying some mascara, and calling up a friend to hang out because there’s no reason the late 20’s can’t be the best 20’s.

xo

26 and feeling alive

 

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Defying the “female engineer” stereotype

I chose the name of my blog “Mechanics, Manicures, & Martinis” because I wanted to include three things in the title that help define me. For starters, “Mechanics” – I’m a female engineer and I love to take things apart and see how they work. I love to build things and invent different contraptions. If something is broken, I’m the first one that wants to figure out how to fix it. I like the challenge of engineering. I like knowing that I can look around at all the magnificent technology in our world and have an idea of how it all works. I can look at bridges and buildings and understand why they have to be built a certain way. And I truly believe that for every female engineer, there’s something just a little satisfying about being able to step in and make something work for a group of guys that can’t figure it out. Maybe it’s a sense of power, or maybe it’s a sense of distinction. For me, I think I just happen to love the challenge of it and all the knowledge that comes with it. Although, I never realized that when I walked into my first mechanical engineering course as an undergraduate that so many stereotypes would come with the title of “female engineer”.

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It usually takes less than a second when I first meet someone and tell them that I am working on my PhD in mechanical engineering for them to say, “Oh….wow” and then assume that we have nothing to talk about because I’m an engineer. Now, I do realize that there are engineers out there that are lacking in their social skills or may be a little bit “weird”, but we are not all like that. We don’t all satisfy the stereotype that so many people have for an engineer. For that reason, I’d like to clear the air and help define myself as well as the other population of female engineers that you might like to consider “normal”:

1. Just because I know how to change my car’s oil and rotate my tires does not mean that I do not like watching Keeping up with the Kardashians on a Sunday night.

2. I promise to only make nerdy jokes with my engineering friends that would appreciate the joke – I will never do this to my non-engineering friends.

3. When you ask me what my plans are for the weekend, please don’t be surprised when I say I’m going out with a few friends to get drinks. Yes, engineers drink. There’s no way they’d stay sane if they didn’t.

4. When you ask me what my PhD project is about, I will always give you the shortest, most simplistic answer. I’m not going to trample you with all the confusing science terms unless you really care to know. And also, it’s okay to tell me you have no idea what I’m talking about – most engineering grad students are slightly clueless about their PhD projects as well.

5. I have a sense of fashion. I am familiar with Michael Kors and Tory Burch. I also know that it is not appropriate to go as a sexy cat to the engineering department Halloween party with students and staff. Also, please be aware that some of my fellow female engineers may still be trying to figure that one out. They are just trying to break the standard of a boring female engineer so don’t hold it against them.

6. Please don’t assume that I know how to fix everything. I will love to try, but you must know that mechanical engineers are different from electrical engineers who are different from computer engineers.

7. If you’re a guy and you’re reading this, most female engineers are computer savvy in some way or another. We spend a lot of time on computers so we know how to convert adobe documents, setup Outlook, and master the animations on a PowerPoint presentation. You also need to understand that we know how to access the internet browser history and downloads folder. It might be in your best interest to clear it occasionally – you know what I’m talking about. Yea, we see those sites.

8. If you know any female engineers then you’ll know that most of their friends are guys. Although I am married now, this used to make for very awkward situations. If you are a male engineer, please give your fellow single female engineers some space. Most of the time we just want to be friends and if we don’t, we’ll let you know.

9. Just because I’m an engineer doesn’t mean I can’t call out my girlfriends when they are being ditzy. Yes, common sense still exists for non-engineers.

10. I wear makeup and paint my nails. Yes, I even know how to shellac my own nails and contour my makeup. One of the benefits of being an engineer, I like to figure out how to do things myself.

11. Last but not least, most females engineers like to be self-sufficient and independent because that’s how we had to be to get to where we are. With this, be fully aware that we are stubborn when it comes to offered assistance. Yes, we like to do things on our own. It took my husband and a year of marriage to figure this out. So if you are planning on dating a female engineer, keep this in mind because it holds true for the typical and atypical female engineer.

 

All in all, we are normal, I promise.

 

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xo

endearing engineering

 

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